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A clinical psychologist looks at religion.
Is Your Religion Neurotic??
by David L. Antion, Ph.D.
Can a religion be neurotic? The word "neurotic" is
derived from the word "neurosis." It has to do with
forms of mental disorders in which the person is not delusional -
i.e. seeing things that are not there or hearing sounds that are
not there (psychotic). A person who is a hypochondriac (believes
s/he is sick all the time) would be neurotic. So would a person
who is depressed. Depression is a form of neurosis.
The late psychologist, Rollo May, suggested three main features
that characterize a neurotic religion. In this article we will
paraphrase them and expound on each.
1. A religion is neurotic when it separates people from, rather
than strengthening their attachment to, fellow human beings.
Many churches and religious leaders cause their followers to shun
others and look on them as polluted or inferior. Even when
religious leaders claim they preach to the contrary, you will
find their followers shunning and avoiding neighbors and
oftentimes relatives too.
A prime example was the sect of the Pharisees. Their very name
meant "separatists." They separated themselves from
those they thought to be sinners and looked on them with disdain.
Jesus used their neurotic tendencies to teach His disciples
better ways. In the parable of the Pharisee and the publican
(Luke 18:9), the Pharisee compared himself and his righteousness
to the lowly publican. He even thanked God that he was not like
other men (or women for that matter)extortioners, unjust,
adulterers. And he was also glad that he was not like the
publican (v. 11). But Jesus pointed out that it was the publican
in his total humility in admitting his sins who went away
justified!
The Scripture makes it plain that Jesus did not separate Himself
from the publicans or other sinners. The Gospels make a specific
point of this! "Then drew near unto him all the publicans
and sinners for to hear him" (Luke 15:1). Jesus did not
separate Himself from them. Rather He spoke to them and taught
them better ways and the good news of God's Kingdom. The
Pharisees and Scribes murmured, "This man receives sinners,
and eats with them" (v. 2).
In Matthew's Gospel we read: "And it came to pass, as Jesus
sat at meat (food) in the house, behold, many publicans and
sinners came and sat down with him and his disciples"
(9:10). Jesus never kept His disciples from other people. He did
not promote a suspicious, distrustful attitude. In fact,
suspicion and distrust are the cornerstones of the paranoid
personality and are very much part of neurotic religion.
Because of His attitude toward all humans, it was easy to
characterize Jesus as the friend of tax collectors and sinners
(Matt. 11:19). It was because He came eating and drinking that
they also called Him gluttonous and a winebibber. He evidently
ate and drank with the publicans (tax collectors) and sinners
(probably harlots).
When Jesus was invited to the house of Simon the Pharisee a woman
came to Him with an alabaster box of ointment. She washed His
feet with her tears and wiped them dry with the hair of her head.
The Pharisee said, "...if he were a prophet, he would have
known who and what manner of woman this is that touches him: for
she is a sinner" (Luke 7:39).
Pharisees would not touch another human they thought was a
sinner. Jesus lectured the Pharisee on common, decent
hospitality. He pointed to the woman as being more gracious and
kind than His host.
We also have the example of the Samaritan who stopped to help a
Jew who had been mugged, robbed and left for dead. A Levite
passed him by. A priest also passed by. Neither helped him. But
the Samaritan had compassion and was not afraid to help another
human being though different in religion and racial mixture (Luke
10:30-33).
Jesus' example plainly shows us that separation from other humans
is neurotic. That doesn't mean that we must do everything they do
- of course not! Jesus' teaching was that we should not only love
those who love us, we should even "love your enemies"
(Matt. 5:44). It's not enough just to greet those who greet you.
Jesus asked, "And if you salute your brethren only, what do
you more than others? Even the publicans do so" (v. 47).
In spite of this plain teaching from the Bible, many
"religious" people will shun others and not even speak
to those of another church or religion. This is often encouraged
by their leaders in an effort to keep a fence around the flock.
(I suspect that ministers who get their living from the
"tithes" or offerings of the people would do everything
to make sure their people stay within the fold. After all, the
minister's very financial security would be at risk.) To be sure,
it is so hard to do what Jesus commanded (Matt. 5:44) and so easy
to fall in line with the tendency of human nature to demonize
others and separate from them.
Paul had to keep the Corinthians from misunderstanding. When he
wrote not to keep company with fornicators he was not talking
about people in general but a church discipline of exclusion for
a "brother" (1 Cor. 5:9-10). Paul had no restrictions
on the brethren greeting, talking to and being in the company of
the people of the world. He said if we could not deal with those
people because of their sins, we would have to leave the world
because there would be virtually no one except church members to
talk to.
There is another thing that happens when you talk only to people
who believe every little thing you do. I call it mental or
spiritual incest. It is the constant inbreeding of all the same
ideas. This creates a false reality and is the hallmark of cults.
To keep people in a cult one must make sure they do not talk to
or hear ideas from other sources. Imagine the power the cult then
would have over its followers.
If I put you in a room - cut off from all other sources of
information except my words - I could get you to believe
virtually anything. I could tell you that wild animals were
roaming the streets, that your family had all been killed, that
you lost all your property, etc. Since you have no other source
of information you are left with only two choices - believe what
I say or reject it. But when you reject it, you do so without any
substance since you have no other information to contradict it!
To keep this from happening to our nation as it did in Nazi
Germany, the framers of the Constitution put in the 1 st
amendment. We call it freedom of speech, freedom of the press and
freedom of assembly - and, of course, freedom of religion.
But most cult leaders don't even have to fear that their people
will seek other sources of information. Why? Because the people
themselves often shun any source of information that they feel
will be contrary to their belief system. In other words, the
people themselves cut themselves off from all other sources of
information but their leader.
You have probably known people (maybe you were one or are one)
who will not read anything but their own church's publications.
They will not listen to any sermon that is not preached by an
official minister of their own church group. And, certainly, they
will never darken the doorway of another church to attend
services there.
Their leaders praise them for this! They are told, "You are
loyal to God's government." The leaders deride
nonconformists who dare read or listen or attend what is not
approved by the leader. "You have lost your fear of
God", they are told.
A religion is neurotic when it separates you from rather than
strengthening you attachment to others because it promotes
paranoia - distrust and suspicion. Social isolation is also
neurotic.
2. Religion is neurotic when it impoverishes your life rather
than making it abundant.
What is your religion doing to you? I have seen people who have
sacrificed so much financially that they were financially
impoverished. Some felt they must give 30% or more of their
income to "the church" and its programs. You can see
people of different cults soliciting donations in airports, on
the streets, or from door to door. These people have to serve
many hours of time as part of their religious duty.
I have seen people who couldn't afford to take care of their own
or their children's health but sacrificed mightily for their
religion. Their health and the health of their families were
impoverished.
There are other ways to become impoverished. Some churches
discourage learning. Have you heard this statement? "When I
joined that church I had to check my brain at the door and only
picked it up when I walked out." Some churches forbid their
members to read certain books. People are often discouraged from
getting higher education when the leaders refer to schools as
"worldly colleges" or as "colleges of this
world" or as "institutions of Satan the Devil."
They want their people to read and study only the literature
written and sent out from "the church." In effect, they
want mind control. When your mind shrinks rather than expands, we
may say that you have been impoverished.
In Jesus' day the Pharisees and chief priests wanted the officers
to arrest Jesus. They asked, "Why have you not brought
him?" The officers answered, "Never man spake like this
man." Note that they did not ask, "What did this man
say?"
Rather, with closed minds, the Pharisees retorted, "Are you
also deceived? Have any of the rulers or of the Pharisees
believed on him? But this people who knows not the law are
cursed" (John 7:45-49). Implication: do what your leaders do
and only what they do. Believe what you leaders believe and only
what they believe. Think only what your leaders think and only
what your leaders tell you to think.
There was one Pharisee who was not closed-minded. His name was
Nicodemus. He said, "Does our law judge any man, before it
hears him and knows what he does?" (v. 51). Nicodemus had
the logic to imply, "Shouldn't we at least hear what he says
and find out what he does?" Even this rational statement was
thrown out by asking sarcastically, "Are you also of
Galilee?" Many religious leaders love to use pejorative
statements when they can't deal with issues with fact or logic.
Religion should help make life abundant. It should free us to
seek and search for truth. It is the truth that will set us free
(John 8:32). A religion should give us peace of mind, inspire us
to a "merry heart that does good like a medicine"
(Prov. 17:22). A religion should free us to become prosperous if
we can. Naturally we want to heed the warning and not fall into
the trap of trusting in riches or loving money (1 Tim. 6:10).
Jesus said that a thief came to "steal, and to kill, and to
destroy." But He said, "I am come that they might have
life, and that they might have it more abundantly" (John
10:10). Notice that the word "abundantly" is placed in
opposition to the word "steal" (which makes one poor),
and "kill" (which takes away life), and
"destroy" (which ruins life). The abundant life does
not take away from life, does not kill and does not cause us to
be ruined financially or otherwise. The winds of life blow hot
and cold on everyone from time to time. But Jesus, as our
Messiah, came that we would have life and that our life would be
abundant. Beware if your religion causes you to be otherwise.
3. A religion is neurotic when it appeals more to your fears and
cowardice than it does to your love and courage.
Have you ever been inspired to do really good and really great
things? Did this inspiration come from your church or your
minister?
When religion appeals to your love it makes you want to do good,
defend the weak, care for the sick, feed the hungry, help your
neighbor (Luke 10:29-37; Mark 12:28-31). The apostle James said,
"Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is
this: To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and
to keep oneself unspotted from the world" (James 1:27). It
is an artful thing to be in the world but not get spotted by it!
But we must not be afraid to show God's love to other people who
are made in God's image.
At the end time when Jesus comes in His glory He praises some and
rebukes others because "I was hungry. I was thirsty. I was a
stranger and naked. I was sick and in prison." In both cases
- those who came to His aid and those who did not did not
know it was Jesus! Which Christian would refuse to give food or
drink to Jesus? Which one of us would refuse a
"stranger" if we knew it was Jesus? Who among us
wouldn't offer clothing to a person in need if we knew it was
Jesus?
If Jesus were sick or in prison, we would be sure to go visit!
But they didn't know it was He when they did good to Him. On the
other hand, they didn't know it was Jesus when they passed Him by
and didn't do a good deed for Him (Matt. 25:34-46).
Many religious leaders keep their people in the fold by fear
tactics. Some times religions grow mightily by appealing to the
fears or prejudice of others. Though not religious, the Nazis
used the widespread fear tactics of a cult and appealed to the
cowardice of the German people.
Why do religious leaders use fear and prey on the cowardice of
people? Simply this. People are motivated by fear. You'll run
faster because of fear than because of love. A person might run
fast because they fear that a loved one will be hurt. But it is
still out of fear.
I have heard many stories from people who felt if they didn't
conform to their religion that terrible consequences would
overtake them. Some ministers have even gone so far as to say to
mothers, "If you leave this church, your children will no
longer have God's protection and anything that happens to them
will be on your own head."
A religion should appeal to our courage. Paul appealed to Timothy
with these metaphors: the good soldier of Jesus Christ who
endures hardness; the athlete who strives for mastery; the
hardworking farmer; and the skillful workman (2 Tim. 2: 3-15).
Paul used his own example as a person who suffered trouble for
the word of God. He stated, "Therefore, I endure all things
for the elect's sakes, that they may also obtain the salvation
which is in Christ Jesus with eternal glory" (2 Tim. 2:10).
These words of Paul inspire us: "It is a faithful saying:
For if we be dead with him, we shall also live with him: If we
suffer, we shall also reign with him: if we deny him, he also
will deny us" (v. 11-12).
Paul appealed to our strength and courage when he wrote, "I
am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at
hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I
have kept the faith" (4:6-7).
Read here words that appeal to your love and courage.
"Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honest
(honorable), whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is
lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence
and if anything worthy of praise, let your mind dwell on these
things" (Phil. 4:8).
Note that Paul did not limit where truth, honesty, right, pure,
the lovely, the good report, excellence or things worthy of
praise were to be found. Some people can't see anything good
outside their church or religion.
Here is Paul appealing not to fears and cowardice but to love and
courage that Christians may rise to their highest level in Christ
glorifying the Father.
Beware of neurotic religion that appeals to your fears. Are you
afraid to live? Are you afraid to love? Are you afraid of people?
Are you afraid of the future? Are you afraid of the present?
The only fear we need is the "Fear of God" which is the
beginning of wisdom and the awesome worship of our Creator. When
a religion fills you with fear, it is neurotic.
Applied to Other Aspects of Life
In discussing this article with one of my friends, he suggested
that the three characteristics of neurotic religion could be
applied to other aspects of life also. For instance, we could say
that a marriage relationship or a dating relationship is neurotic
when it separates you from rather than strengthening your
attachment to other people. We know that husbands who are
abusive, wife batterers attempt to cut their wives off from
relationships with friends and relatives.
We can apply these principles to corporations and jobs. Let's
take this example: Your career is neurotic when it impoverishes
life rather than making it abundant. Or when your boss appeals
more to your fears and cowardice than to your love and courage.
We can apply all three principles to a family. A family is
neurotic when it separates you from others, when it impoverishes
your life mentally, emotionally, or financially and
when it appeals more to fear and cowardice than to love and
courage.
What is the Cure?
In summary, the cures for the three characteristics of neurotic
religion are:
1) Don't let religion separate you from other people
friends, relatives, acquaintances. One of the reasons many
so willingly separated was that they felt like oddballs. They
were ashamed of their beliefs and felt others would consider them
odd. But, how can be we a "light to the world" if we
hide under a bushel?
2) Don't let religion impoverish your lifementally,
emotionally, socially or financially. Persecution might arise in
which hardship and poverty happen. Recall the "poor saints
at Jerusalem." But it was outside persecution and the fact
that their fellow countrymen would not trade with them that
caused them to be impoverished, not their religion per se. God
gave us a mind. Christianity is a mind religion and we should not
shy away from intellectual growth. Furthermore, the New Testament
approves of being prosperous. Read the parables of the pounds and
talents.
3) Note that love is the cure for fear (1John 4:18). Courage is
the cure for cowardice. Whenever you catch yourself being afraid
to love you need to rethink what's happening to you. Be
courageous to express concerns, introduce yourself to others, and
openly welcome them. Have the courage to let your light shine.
Have confidence in God's love for you and that He will see you
through to the end. He will finish the work He started in you!
You can use these principles in many ways and apply them to many
more situations including friendships. But, the main focus of
this article is to apply them to religion. Now that you have read
the article, what is your conclusion? Is your religion neurotic?
I am not just referring to a church organization. I am referring
to the religion that you adopt in your own life. It is easy for
us to blame organizations for our religion. But the truth is that
each of us adopts beliefs that form our own religion.
You and I are responsible for the religion we employ in our day
to day lives. When we stand before the judgment seat of Christ it
will not help us much to plead that it was "that
organization" that made us neglect to help "one of the
least of these"Jesus Christ Himself!
Dr. David L. Antion is the founder of
Guardian Ministries in Pasadena, California
(www.guardian-ministries.org). He was ordained over 40 years ago
as a minister of Jesus Christ and is a licensed phychologist and
family counselor. David resides in Pasadena, California, with his
wife Molly.
TSS
March
- April 2005 The Sabbath Sentinel
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